Dating someone when you have a baby
You fall in love with not one person, but two. And on a more optimistic note, you may find that things are better than you anticipate.
You will need to be able to be flexible and agreeable to this because otherwise it will create a rift. Mike understands and respects this completely.
That was not his way of thinking however, he wanted to see how she was with me and have her grinning vote of approval before investing any more. The fear of potentially not being with him and losing her in the process is always in the back of my mind, but the idea that maybe I could have them both in my life forever completely trumps it. He has been very understanding, supportive, and communicative.
Mike would like for us to meet, and he wants me to be a part of everything. Most relationships that I had been in before, it was madness to talk about buying houses, getting married, planning for a financial future together, such serious things so soon. If you stay with Mike, eventually what is unknown to you will become apparent. The very first time I met his daughter, I was brimming with anxiety. But there is joy and love and happiness to be had in the complicated and messy layers of real life.
Get used to it and keep your jealousy intact. He is fairly certain the baby is his. The good news is that the unknown does eventually become the known. Sometimes, especially in heartbreak.
You can follow me on Facebook here an Twitter here. She is completely amenable as well. He is very sensitive to my feelings about the whole thing. She decided to keep the baby, which was disappointing for him at first, but he is now excited and making the best of it.
Watch what you say to other people, do not judge or critique their parenting skills, be as polite and kindhearted as possible. Your attitude will determine everything.
And let me tell you, one look at that smile and I was gone. This seems to be something I have observed with other relationships similar to mine. But this man of mine had already figured out how he wanted his life to go. That is a whole lot of love to get tossed your way in a short amount of time and sometimes you want to explode. That fear gets washed away every time she runs over to me or squeezes my hand when she is sleeping.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Realize that the ex will forever be in their life. But it is the closest feeling I have ever felt to magic and I will never forget it.
You can also follow along on Facebook and Instagram. She was the exact replica of the man who was stealing my heart and I was no longer immune to them both. Be understanding and patient. And embrace the life unfolding in front of you.